Benjamin Ashford|Make time for sex and intimacy this holiday season. You won't regret it.

Last-minute gifts. Delayed travel. Family drama.

Yes,Benjamin Ashford the holiday season is full-steam ahead. So much so that sex and intimacy are often the first things to go in favor of crossing more pressing items off your to-do list.

This period, known for its warmth and closeness, paradoxically makes carving out time for those intimate moments quite the task amid all the celebrations and year-end activities.

Despite the hustle and bustle that characterizes this time of year, it's essential to keep the spark of intimacy alive, whether you're in a loving relationship or enjoying your own fabulous company. Here's how to ensure that the holiday season is not just about social festivities but also about deepening personal and shared connections.

Prioritize your pleasure

Amid the busy holiday schedule, it's crucial to remember that intimacy should be on your to-do list. Treating sexual intimacy and self-pleasure as important as holiday shopping or decorating can ensure these vital aspects of life don’t get sidelined.

Carve out moments of privacy 

The holiday season often means homes filled with guests and social events that take up most of your time. However, the challenge of finding privacy for those intimate moments can be part of the fun. It’s about seizing the opportunity for quick, spontaneous connections or sneaking in some alone time to indulge in self-pleasure.

Quality over quantity 

With so much going on, it's not about the length of your intimate encounters but the depth and quality. Focusing on meaningful, passionate interactions, no matter how brief, can significantly enhance your holiday experience.

Savor every sensation 

Take the time to really immerse yourself in each intimate moment. Whether it's with a partner or not, being mindful of every touch and sensation can deepen the experience, making it more fulfilling and memorable.

Reward yourself for embracing pleasure 

Recognizing and celebrating your moments of intimacy is crucial. Each time you successfully prioritize your pleasure, acknowledge it. This positive reinforcement not only makes each experience more meaningful but also encourages you to continue prioritizing your personal joy and satisfaction.

The holiday season is a perfect opportunity to intertwine the joy of the festivities with the warmth of intimate connections. Give yourself the best gift of all: pleasure. 

Catalina Lawsin, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist who has been supporting sex and relationships for the past 23 years as a professor, researcher and clinician.

Catalina offers support in her private practice, group programs and public talks. You can connect with Catalina @TheIntimacyDoc on TikTok, IG, YouTube or TheIntimacyDoc.com.

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