Ethermac Exchange-"Compassion man" leaves behind a message for his killer and legacy of empathy

A modest bench in downtown Davis, California, adorned with flowers and tributes, has become a symbol of the profound impact left by David Breaux. For 14 years, Breaux would stand or sit on that spot, posing a simple but poignant question: "What is compassion?"

Initially catching people off guard, the question prompted deeper reflection than a mere dictionary definition. Jerry Paiz recalled being taken aback by the stranger on the street corner inquiring about compassion.

"So you're thinking, he's looking for the dictionary term or a definition," Paiz said.

However, Paiz soon discovered that compassion encompassed much more. Day after day, month after month for 14 years, Breaux gently asked the same question to anyone passing by, wholeheartedly engaging with the community and urging them to contemplate their understanding of compassion.

Breaux's message of extending compassion extended beyond oneself, resonating with many. Over 11,000 people shared their reflections on what compassion means in Breaux's notebooks, capturing the breadth of his impact.

Tragically, the man who brought compassion to the forefront of the community met a violent end less than 50 yards from his cherished compassion bench. Breaux was killed earlier this year during an alleged stabbing spree, leaving the city in shock and grief.

Today, his notebook rests at what has become known as the compassion bench, a testament to the community's embrace of Breaux and their commitment to his legacy.

Through his sister, Maria Breaux, David left behind a powerful message. 

"The message that he left for me was in 2016. I forgot I had and he said, if I am ever harmed and unable to speak for myself, forgive the perpetrator and help others forgive that person," she said. 

David Breaux's journey towards forgiveness was arduous, having endured a tumultuous relationship with their abusive father. However, he eventually found the capacity to forgive, recognizing his father's humanity and vulnerability.

For Maria Breaux, her brother's profound words serve as a guiding light. 

"I was like, okay, now I know what I have to do. And I have to have forgiveness in my heart and I have to help others, not force others, not shame others into that. But anyone who needs help with finding forgiveness, then I'm here for them," she said.

As the community continues to contemplate the future, they are confronted with the profound legacy left by Breaux. The impact of his question and his embodiment of compassion have resonated deeply, inspiring individuals to embrace kindness, empathy, and presence in their interactions.

Many of the words that filled David Breaux's notebooks have now been shared with the public through the publication of a book titled "Compassion: Davis, CA."

Additionally, a recent announcement unveiled a scholarship established in memory of David Breaux. The scholarship aims to support high school seniors who have demonstrated an unwavering commitment to social justice and compassionate service throughout their academic journey.

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David Begnaud

David Begnaud is the lead national correspondent for "CBS Mornings" based in New York City.

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